How to get out of the rut in 5 different ways.

How my brain looks like in 2021
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We turn on the tv, we listen to podcasts, and even on my IG feed is people yelling something about the government, the Corona Virus, the vaccine, and being a hundred percent honest, I’m exhausted.Everyone is loud and it seems like the voice in my brain is being muffled by the world’s crisis. It feels like it’s never-ending. This post is about how to get out of the rut and get things done, when the times are hard.

It’s been a few days that I feel like I’m on a rut. I sit down, look at my computer, type a few titles, and leave. It feels like my brain got me into a panicked mode, due to all that is happening with the world lately. Especially living in the United States. 

My blog is my passion project. I’m thankful for having a platform to write about what’s been bothering me, so I can help you to understand that I’m probably going through the same. What helps me to fix the situation, or at least manage it better. I’m no expert, but I believe we all have different experiences worth sharing. 

Almost every morning, I write on my planner what I intent for what my day should be. It usually includes some tasks over the phone and mostly my writing plans for the day. It’s usually one or two hours of writing and then work on some pins, schedule, and so on. But the days where the pages are empty and I need to force myself to sit down and write, this is what I do:

Watch inspiring videos. 

“You can fail at what you don’t love, so might as well do what you love”

Watch interviews or short videos of how people started their careers or how after a long time trying, they finally made it. Or a masterclass on a subject I want to learn more about. It usually helps me to get up and get stuff done. A few months ago, I watched Spike Lee on Indie Movies and now I just started Issa Rae. I need to see people who succeeded in what I want to work on, like Screenwriting. I look for classes where I know people can inspire me in terms of ‘I was different, but I made it through”  

Listen to Music or your favorite Podcast. 

Music somehow is always in the background, when I need inspiration for my stories, or just to get out of my couch, when bad days hit hard. I like to listen to the radio station, most of the time. I guess being a kid from the ’90s, I got used to switching stations and not just skip songs endlessly. 

Having someone interacting with you, about that song they are about to play is also fun. That’s probably why I like Podcasts. 

I wrote a post about Podcasts for Self- Care, where I listed the ones I like the most, like Gretchen Ruben, “Happier”, Jay Shetty “On Purpose” and Rachel Hollis Podcast. 

Here is the post if you like to know more about it 

Talk to your friends. 

Not just online. I know for us, millennials, it’s hard to make phone calls, but it’s worth it if you are checking in with a friend. It’s important to keep in touch with people that keep you grounded and inspired. People that listen to you talk about your crazy plans, and encouraging you, even though they have no idea if you will go through with it. 

I had friends in my teenage years, which we are still friends, who believed in me so much when I said I was going to move to America. They never laughed, they just supported me, the same way they still do, when I tell them I want to create a web series and have my own production company someday. 

Friends don’t laugh at your plans. They push me to keep working. Surround yourself with people that push you forward. People that make plans. Other than just sitting around waiting for life to happen. 

Be positive about your ongoing projects. 

Sometimes it seems hard because nothing is happening, or at least not happening the way you expect it to. When I have a new post on the blog, I monitor to see how many views, comments, how many pins I should keep working on. Even though I have SEO on the blog, sometimes it doesn’t happen. Not overnight. 

I read that a blog takes about two years of consistent work to pick up its pace. It all depends on the subject, the Niche, the sharing platforms, and the marketing. It’s a lot to work on your own. This is the very first time in my life, I didn’t give up on something. I want to make work.  

Creating a schedule or on what to work makes it easier. And don’t get bumped if it didn’t work at first. Keep trying. I heard people say and read in different articles about “How long are you going to be trying so you see this is not gonna work?” What I learned in life is, if it’s truly your passion you don’t give up. You adapt. You make your dreams work for you. 

I have a dream to be a screenwriter, but for now, I will keep writing what I can, to keep my dream alive, while I work for it.  

Read a passage from your favorite book 

Every time I read a book, I underline a few passages I like. The latest one I read was Untamed, by Glennon Doyle. The entire book is a blessing and she is delightful, I finished the book wanting to be friends with her and her family. One of the most iconic lines of the book is: “Now that we don’t have to be good, we can be free.” You don’t need to be good at everything, a good mother, a good wife, a good worker. You can be you, once you break free of whatever is keeping you attached to the wall. 

Another book I keep at my hand’s reach is Big Magic – Creative Living Beyond Fear, from Elizabeth Gilbert. 

This book is a constant reminder that yes, I can live my dream and you can live yours. It doesn’t matter how crazy it sounds. Have I told you about my dream of having a production company (again)? Anyway, my favorite passage of this books says “You don’t need anybody’s permission to live a creative life” 

I didn’t grow up with parents who were creative in any way. Those Boomers only taught me to get in college to get a job and be able to sustain my livelihood. Being an only child was what made me creative. 

From a very early age, I knew I wanted to write, I just didn’t know what or how. In school, I was a very good conversationalist, always telling different stories and talking everyone’s ears out. 

Take your time!

The last thing I want to say is: Take your time. You are not behind, you are not wasting your days if you are not always busy. Watch TV, laugh at those memes and when you feel ready, get up and go work on your dreams. I struggled with that for the longest time, as I keep thinking I’m already in my mid 30’s and didn’t accomplish anything. That’s why I ended up in this rut and had to find ways to cope and try to keep working, instead of feeling sorry for myself. 

Even though there are days when I mope and spend the day feeling sorry for myself. It’s all good.

Hope you had a good beginning of the new year!

Stay strong! Stay Healthy!

J.G.Snelly

A Letter of Encouragement.

A letter of encouragement. For all of us.

Another year comes to a wrap. This year was one for the books, for all of us. We will never forget 2020, for the rest of our lives. Just like that special event, that you keep in your memories, we are going to talk about 2020 forever. It’s not a year we want to forget either. At least I don’t.

This year started promising, I had plans to go back to California to take some workshops, finally, get my drivers license, and maybe, just maybe, start a little production company, where I would write sketches, film it and post them on youtube. Oh! I was going to Disney too, to see a friend from my teenage years. Nothing.

When March 15 hit, I remember seeing that clown on TV, saying everything should be closed because of the Virus, and they wanted to avoid overcrowding the hospital system, so we should all stay home until April. To flatten the curve. Today is December 15. Nobody talks about to flatten the curve anymore.

During this time, I saw restaurants and businesses’ closures. I saw friends losing their jobs, I saw family struggling to get by. Something I also learn during this time is that I’m surrounded by resilient people. People that don’t give up and keep moving. All of them did.

Somehow, we made it work.

In adverse times, we look for better ways to improve our lives. Some of us had finally the time to turn that hobby, that was on the back of the drawer, into a career. We found new ways to sustain ourselves and somehow improve our life quality. I started paying attention to what I eat and how I eat. I’m not very religious, but I took some time of my day to pray and be thankful.

I’m thankful for being alive and healthy. I’m thankful because I finally had the time to pursue my dreams. I have this blog for two years, and only now I had time to dedicate myself to it, put my voice out in the world. To learn about it and to focus on the message I want to spread.

For all the people that lost loved ones, I’m terribly sorry. For the nurses that worked night and day, without seeing the family members and all the stress caused by the endless work, I salute you and appreciate you. The true heroes. Now the vaccine is coming, we lift up our heads again and march to continue our lives. Hugs and physical contact has never been more appreciated than now.

For all the creators that kept us sane!

The awkward creator that lives in me, salute the awkward creator that lives in you!

And for all my friends reading this, a huge imaginary hug from me, and a shout out! We did! We managed 2020 the best way possible! For all the creators out there, I know how hard some days were, but we did it! We are the reason people didn’t lose their minds completely. We are writers, musicians, content creators, video game players, reality tv producers, screenwriters and illustrators. It’s because of us, people could keep their sanity.

So now, when people turned around and say your art/film career doesn’t matter, ask them to read the legislation book for entertainment. Binge-watch the Senate channel.


Enough of throwing shade now.

The endless quarantine didn’t finish with my plans, I just postpone it. I still want to go to California and take the screenwriting workshops, I still plan to go back to Disney, and I still plan to live my life to the fullest. Even if I’m stuck at home for a little longer.

Thank you, 2020.

Thank you 2020 for giving me the chance to know more about myself and not be into the cloud of just surviving another day.

For the first time, I had the chance to appreciate every day as its own, because of the uncertainty of tomorrow. After this year, I will not take anything for granted.

I will make sure to pay attention to my actions and the energy I’m transmitting. Make sure to look up and enjoy the scenery instead of looking down at my phone screen. Dance my weird dance moves and laugh at myself. Let my inner child come out whenever it’s necessary.

Call my parents and tell them I love them and make sure to see them soon. Watch all the Disney movies. I wish you don’t take anything for granted, and you also, had enough time to adjust the sails, like Dolly Parton once told us.

What are your plans after the quarantine is over? Let me know in the comments or on my social media. I complain about it, but I’m always there. Complaining, of course.

See you soon!

Take care and Stay Healthy

J.G.Snelly

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